Bedtime: The Magical Words that Moms Whisper to Themselves After a Long Day (Featuring: Are Those Your Kids)

Bedtime. The magical words that moms whisper to themselves after a long day.
Often times it is a rushed routine, simply so mommy can get some shut eye. What if I told you establishing a routine can be just as relaxing for you as it is for your kids?
Here are a few tips to make bedtime magical for all parties involved:

Start winding your kids down before they get overtired

What happens when your kids get over tired? I think any mom can answer that for you. Unexplained tears and tantrums often signal it’s time for bed. When your children don’t stick to a routine and are overstimulated or overtired, this makes for one miserable evening for EVERYONE.  Do yourself a favor and begin bedtime routines before the crankiness sets in.

Make bath time fun

Most kids love bath time! If you have an infant that hates it, have no fear, this will change soon! Bath toys, water proof books and even bath crayons make taking a bath more fun. Adding bubbles always excites my kids. Various brands like Crayola even have colored bubbles! To help my kids wind down in the evenings, I use Aveeno Baby Lavender Body Wash.  Lavender is known for having a calming effect on kids.

Add some literacy to the bedtime routine

As an educator, it saddens me to hear that there are a high percentage of children who don’t like to read. Reading to your child (at any time) has a myriad of benefits. One of which is the relationship you build with your child. They will remember those moments of cuddling together to read a good book. It also opens your child’s mind to a variety of experiences, assists with language acquisition, mastery of language and basic speech skills.

Teach your children how to fall asleep on their own

It’s important that your children learn to fall asleep on their own once they are past the newborn stage. What happens when they depend on you to sing, rock or hold them in order to fall asleep? Well just ask my 2.5 year old. I had established a firm routine with her sister, but rocked her to sleep every night past two years old. Some nights, I just wanted to lay her down and relax. That wouldn’t fly. She cried. Then screamed. And followed me to my room. It was painful. I thought I’d never get her to sleep on her own. And then it hit me. I hadn’t established a firm routine with her! I included her when I read her older sister (5) a story at night, then walked her to her room for prayers, kissed her, and it was as simple as that! By the end of the week, I had established a routine with her that allowed her to fall asleep on her own. It’s easy to make that mistake, even if you have other children.

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Pick a bedtime, and be consistent

Kids love consistency. Heck, adults do too. Picking a consistent bedtime not only helps you nightly but if you ever need to leave your kids with a babysitter (or your parents), they will continue to follow the same routine you’ve established in lieu of your presence.
How do you establish a bed time routine with your children? I’d love to hear what works for you.
Diedre Anthony, blogger
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Newborn Sensory Play: Singing & Rocking

Holding your baby is such a wonderful thing and is imperative for their healthy growth. One of the ways that you can stimulate your baby’s senses from birth is by holding, rocking, and singing or talking to them. This may not seem like the most exciting sensory play, but I guarantee it is important and I promise, as they get older, you will be running after them so enjoy this moment of snuggling.

Materials Needed:
➺Rocking chair or your arms for rockingbaby-21249_1920

➺A quiet time and place

Find a time when you are not busy or stressed and you are in a quiet place, such as right before nap time. Sing or talk to your baby as you hold them in your arms rocking them or holding their head in your hands at your knees. This is a great time to tell them you love them, give them Eskimo kisses, as well as sing lullabies that have been passed down in your family.

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If you need some ideas here are a few:
Skidamarink a Dink a Dink
Drip Drop by Rita Baloche
Michael Row the Boat Ashore
Down in the River to Pray 
♪’I’ve Got Peace Like a River

 

 

Having Fun on a Small Budget

 

Doing anything when you are married with little ones can be a challenge. Do we get a sitter? Do we take them with us? What can we even do?
 
Going out to eat or doing an activity like bowling can get expensive fast, especially when you have to pay someone to watch your little bundle of joy. My husband and I have seen some really dark days of no dates and screaming kids in restaurants when we tried.
 
We had NO budging room for a sitter and finding a reliable one was a whole other problem so we ended up bringing our toddler along with us and later a baby and a toddler. This made for some interesting no talking, feeding the kids, quick date nights that I felt more exhausted then relaxed from.
 
We soon learned that we had to start doing something different. Here are some of the things that we changed about dates that helped us have a moment or two to connect together.
 
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1. If you can get your baby or toddler to nap at a certain time go on your date then! We figured this one out by accident when our daughter was a little over one. After no dates for months we finally decided to give it a try. We pulled into the restaurant parking lot and our baby was asleep! I was upset because I thought she would wake up and be grumpy from not getting enough sleep. But, my husband has the special touch, and managed to get her out of her car seat and into the stroller that we covered with a blanket (because people are nosy and they don’t care if they wake the baby). We walked in were seated, ate our whole meal with no peep from our little girl. I literally cried tears of joy because we finally had some time to talk and eat like we used to and we put her back in the car with her still asleep! I know this won’t happen every time, but if it works for you it is wonderful!

 
2. If you live close to relatives or friends, Let Them Babysit Having a family member watch your baby is great and free. If you don’t live close see if your other Mommy friends would be willing to baby swap. You take their baby for a few hours one day and they take your baby for a few hours another day. That way two Mommies and Daddies get a date night and your little one gets a play date.

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3. Set aside a budget for eating out/dates This was super important for us because we had to use every dollar to its full potential. Every pay check I would pull $25 from our account and place it in an envelope. If we got pizza one night or if my husband had to have a frosty, it came out of that. It makes you very aware of how easy it is to bust through money going out when it’s in cash, but being young and poor we had to be careful not to use our grocery money to eat out someplace. This meant that many months we only had enough money for one date night, this is where you have to be creative.

 
4. Make a date night at home Ready to be creative? Try picking a theme, like Paris, and make food that you would not normally make for the theme. My husband loves to do this one because we can put the baby to bed have dinner and have some quite time alone. When we were first married, and really had no money, my husband found a twist on a chicken dinner and cooked it, making the plates all pretty like a restaurant would and we sat and had a really good meal together.

 
5. Save change and any tips in a piggy bank You know the old saying, “Out of sight, out of mind”, well the same is true for money. We have a piggy bank on a shelf in our room that I place any change I find around the car or in the laundry in. After a few months dump it out and see what you have. We had a time when I would place any money I had in there and one month we were in a pinch. I opened the jar and found a couple $20 bills and my husband and I were able to take care of our bills and still have a nice date together. So those pennies add up and go a long way!

 

What have you done to spend time with your spouse on a small budget? Did you find a fun way from the suggestions above? Let me know!

 

happy mommying

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