A bundled up sweet baby is laying against your chest as the doctor explains that your child may never hear. All the lullabies you sang as a child, the sound of water, your voice…They may never hear.
You are in shock and denial that this perfect little baby you are staring at will not have all the ability that a normal baby would.
But, what is “normal” anyways?
As a parent, allow yourself to grieve through your child not having the ability to hear. It does not mean that you love them any less or that they are any less the love of your life! It just means that you are human and your idea of what was going to happen didn’t so feeling the way you do doesn’t make you a bad parent.
You will experience the different levels of grief with this new change, which include denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. These will not manifest in any given linear order because every person is different with different ideas and experiences.
You are probably asking yourself what you are going to do now because everything you planned has changed, but let me assure you that is okay!
Your child can still have a full, regular life being Deaf or Hard-of-Hearing.
There are so many Deaf individuals who have made an impact in the world!
For example, Rachel Mazique is a Deaf English Writing teacher and Miss Deaf America Ambassador, actress Marlee Matlin, and singer Paul Stanley from KISS was even born Deaf in one ear!
This is just naming a few of the amazing people that just happen to be Deaf.
Being Deaf or having hearing loss at some level is not a life sentence.
I MEAN EVEN MY PRIMARY CARE DOCTOR IS DEAF!
Your child can be anything they want to be! There will just be a bit of a learning curve as you learn to do it differently than other parents around you.
That is why I started Imagination Signing. I want to be a resource for you and your family to have easy accessibility to everything you need to learn American Sign Language, talk about the issues and feelings you are having, and give you valuable information that can make your life easier!
I am here to help you! And I have a brand new community here for you too! Whether you have decided to approach teaching your child whole language, just ASL, or ASL with a Cochlear Implant this is a safe place to ask questions and not be judged.